Sex: Getting Back to the Good Stuff

During couples therapy, I will generally ask you about sex. Sometimes during the first session! Why do we need to talk about sex?

It can be a normal, healthy and happy part of a relationship if you want. It’s not a need, it’s a fabulous addition to a successful relationship. 

Often, a couple's sex life can give us some clues about other parts of the relationship too. 

It’s common for couples to want to talk about sex during counselling sessions, and it’s also common for couples to express relief when I mention it first. We’re all adults in the room, yet sex can often cause a little reddening of the cheeks.

What I often hear about from couples is that sex used be to good thing for them! Folks generally seem to know what they are doing once the opportunity arises - and what I mean by that is: two (or more) consenting, enthusiastic and aroused people. However, due to the stress and busyness of life, sex gets pushed to the bottom of the list. 

Part of our conversation will of course lead into distinction between sex and intimacy. Sometimes both are missing. In couples counselling, we can talk about you finding both of those things again, in a manner that is safe and fun.