Dates nights: no pressure!

Spending time with one another is good medicine for couples, but when a relationship is in trouble, a high stakes activity is not a safe bet. 

Date nights can be brilliant, but if you are out of practice there’s a bunch of snags lurking: what to wear, where to go, will it be expensive, what to talk about, is there parsley in your teeth, and is there going to be excellent sex afterwards? That’s a lot of pressure points. 

If you are coming to visit me for couples counselling, it’s likely I’ll be asking you to aim smaller. An activity still may have pressure points, but let’s reduce them. 

Date nights become: 

• Home movie nights with popcorn 

• Walking to the IGA to buy a litre of milk 

• Washing the car together 

• A bike ride 

• A double date with your fun friends 

• A trip to Bunnings, with or without the sausage. 

Hot, I know. However if your rituals of connection are damaged, we need to rebuild them sustainably. And if these don’t turn out well, there’s still hope: with guidance and gentle support, you will get back on track.