Violence: None of this is okay.

I always ask couples before beginning their sessions with me, if there is violence in the home, or if they are both safe.  

I’m going to explain why safety screening is essential, and what are some alternatives if you are not safe. 

People are quick to say that there’s no physical violence in the home. However, you may not know that you are experiencing family violence. It can look like controlling behaviour, verbal abuse including yelling and put downs, financial abuse and or sexual abuse. Without intervention, family violence gets worse. It is impossible to create a safe therapeutic space in the counselling room, when the home environment is not safe. 

If you are experiencing imminent physical violence, call the Police 000.  

There are a range of other services, including 1800 RESPECT (Australia wide); Safe Steps 1800 015 188 (Victoria) and Orange Door (Banyule and Nillumbik) 1800 319 355. Orange Door is an excellent and free resource that can answer any of your questions about family violence and link you to support including court information and legal advice.  

If there’s violence in the home from a household member other than the couple (such as a teenager or housemate), counselling CAN proceed. We can do some safety planning together.